Haruki Murakami's On Seeing the 100% Perfect Girl One Beautiful April Morning (the inspiration for the name of this blog) is a story within a story, starting with "once upon a time" and ending "a sad story, don't you think?" The message is that all love stories - all stories, love or not - start and end that way, no matter what is in between.
It's not pessimistic to acknowledge. It's realistic. Everything ends, sometime. And with endings come sadness. It's non-negotiable. What we can control is the middle part. That's up in the air.
The bittersweetness of love, and life, is that the happier the beginnings and the middles, the sadder the endings. It's easy to try to protect ourselves from sadness by hiding, cowering, from life and all the hurt that can accompany it. But being alive is just as much about pain as it joy, and even more about hope, faith, strength and just plain getting through when hearts are broken and life is, at it so often is, hard. If a sad ending is inevitable, let us create memories of love and beauty every chance we have; to hold onto during those lonely times when the day turns to night and morning seems so far away.
“I’m so happy that I’m frightened. Wouldn’t it be awful if this was—was the high point?…” She looked at him dreamily. “Beauty and love pass, I know…Oh, there’s sadness too. I suppose all great happiness is a little sad. Beauty means the scent of roses and the death of roses...”
— F. Scott Fitzgerald