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Saturday, April 23, 2011

We are human


"Oppression involves a failure in the imagination. A failure to imagine the full humanity of other human beings."
– Margaret Atwood

The photograph above depicts three asylum seekers detained at Villawood Detention Centre in New South Wales, Australia. After it was taken, a group of detainees, some of whom had recently had their application for refugee status denied by the Australian government, set three buildings within the compound alight.

I won't launch into a tirade about immigration policy and human rights. The canvas is too grey and murky to get very far; the arguments just go around and around in circles, exhausting everybody involved. 

All I can say is how tragic it is that these detainees feel that they have to remind us that they are, in fact, human. It is so easy for privileged people - particularly middle-class Australians, who live such sheltered lives - to hide behind hyperbole. The truth is that the people in this photograph are likely to have been privy to horror and tragedy far beyond anything that we will never have the misfortune of experiencing in our lifetime. I don't understand how people can believe that they are more deserving of a peaceful, prosperous life than others, simply due to the good fortune of being born in a rich Western country. All I can think, when looking at that picture, is that could be me. And if it were, wouldn't I be desperate enough to do anything I could to reach safety and freedom? After all, isn't that what everybody wants? No matter where they are born?

We are in the midst of a political climate fixated upon dehumanising people; so we, as a society, need to demand a shift. From the impersonal to the personal. From the brutal to the gentle. From the xenophobic to  the tolerant. We have to take it upon ourselves to rally for the individual. To empathise, to feel compassion, for the outsider, the marginalised, the person without a voice. Because when we fight for somebody else's rights, we are also fighting for our own.

P.S. I found this article on hard-wired political views comforting. Quoting it would only rile up my adversaries but it is nice to quietly keep it at the back of my mind, as self-affirmation.

I found this photograph on We Come From a Sunburnt Country.

Tuesday, April 19, 2011

The right to choose your own life



"You’re not a kid anymore. You have the right to choose your own life. You can start again. If you want a cat, all you have to do is choose a life in which you can have a cat. It’s simple. It’s your right."
— Haruki Murakami, The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle

Ping.

That is the sound that reverberated around my head when I read this piece of wisdom. (I'm not sure why my brain chose to make this particular sound. Perhaps because it is the sound my imagination decided would indicate a "light-bulb moment"? Nevertheless...)

Ping. 

Because Haruki is right. It's simple. We have the right to choose our own lives. They are ours, after all. 

In that vein, this year I am taking a year off, from my (official) studies. To write. To dream. To work. To save. To travel. Not to find myself. But just to be me.

A few days ago, I discovered that I am a scanner. "A scanner", self-help author Barbara Sher explained in an interview with Sarah Wilson, "is genetically wired to be fanatically interested in multiple things at once". As Sarah relays in her Sunday Life column:

“You love everything, right!” Well, yes. “But you get bored and go off on tangents! And you think it’s bad that you keep quitting things and moving on!” Yes, yes, I do! “Don’t! Have some fun with it instead!”

Another ping. That's me! Sarah says that, at 75, Barbara lives and breathes scanner theory: she has written seven bestselling books, travels year-round on the speakers circuit, reads geography texts and spends spring in Turkey teaching e-commerce to village weavers. Sounds lovely, right?

Oh, but how to mitigate my uncontrollable instinct to scan through life with the desire for exceptionalness? (It's a word, promise.) You see, for all her scanning, Barbara is exceptional at what she does. So is self-claimed scanner Sarah. So is everybody I really admire. The afore-mentioned writer Haruki Murakami. Comedian Tim Minchin. Musician Paolo Nutini. Poet Rumi. Their genius in one area, not their multi-talented facilities, is what makes them so exceptional; but perhaps scanning contributes to their brilliance.

Saturday, April 16, 2011

Freedom versus happiness


Doing what you like is freedom,
liking what you do is happiness.

I think the more ingrained in life we become (the older we are, the stronger our friendships, the more responsibility we bear upon our shoulders), the less freedom we are granted. And so our happiness depends not upon being free to do what we like, but finding happiness within our lot in life: bringing joy to the less-than-thrilling job, transforming an awkward social encounter into a delightful exchange and taking pleasure in the weekly grocery shopping trip. For it is not life that brings us happiness, but we who bring happiness to life. 

This photograph was taken by Take Me Vintage Shopping

Monday, April 11, 2011

What is your "Italy"?

In Laura Munson's This Is Not The Story You Think It Is: A Season of Unlikely Happiness, she describes her "place". It is Florence, Italy, which she visited as a teenager and, nearly twenty years later, a woman. For those two decades in between, Laura denied herself the pleasure of Italy: the taste of a fresh fig, the joy of walking along the cobblestoned streets, the sense of belonging and the happiness that lay dormant inside her during all those years of denial. The trip gave her the strength and peace of mind to commit to the "end of suffering", which she needed desperately when she came home to the news that her beloved husband didn't love her anymore... and isn't sure that he ever did. Laura went on to write a book about how she single-handedly salvaged their relationship, with grace and poise.

I learned a lot from Laura's book and one of those lessons was that I really want to find my place. Somewhere, away from home, that makes me feel wonderful. A place where I fit in. Somewhere that brings a spring to my step and a smile to my face, and will provide me with happy memories for years to come.

Here is where you come in. I am going to travel towards the end of the year. I want a visit a few different places; but I want to end up somewhere wonderful. What I have learned from communicating with readers since I started blogging is that my blogs have, miraculously, attracted kindred spirits - and so I suspect that wherever you may have experienced being in the "right" place, I will feel a similar way. So please, tell me: What is your place? And why?

Sunday, April 10, 2011

Hidden treasures


Gretchen Rubin (of The Happiness Project) just sent an email sharing this quote:

[Of her marriage to Leonard Woolf]: "The immense success of our life is, I think, that our treasure is hid away; or rather in such common things that nothing can touch it."
– Virginia Woolf, Diaries, June 14, 1925

We cannot uncover somebody's "treasure" by looking at their life from the outside. Happiness is not, for example, expensive homes, extravagant holidays, high-paying jobs or public displays of affection. In fact, they are often unfulfilled pursuits for treasure, rather than treasure itself.

Happiness, for me, is private. Others may not see it but, as Virginia Woolf says, it's safer that way. Because when it is hidden, when only I (and the people I love) can touch it, nobody can take it away from me.

Wednesday, April 6, 2011

My so-called life


Have you ever watched an episode of My So-Called Life? It is a high-school drama tv series from the mid-nineties, starring Claire Danes and Jared Leto. I had never heard of it until I came across one of my favourite quotes, "sometimes someone says something really small and it just fits right into this empty place in your heart", which originated from the show and prompted me to watch it.

It's really good. It has a rawness and honesty atypical of teen dramas, yet also incorporates those familiar elements - the beautiful, confused female protagonist, the sweet, smart neighbour secretly in love with her, the mysterious, "bad-boy" heartthrob. It explores the idea that all of us have an inner life that we have to mitigate with our outward persona, reminding me of another of my favourite quotes, from Neil Gaiman: "Everybody has a secret world inside of them. All of the people of the world, I mean everybody. No matter how dull and boring they are on the outside, inside them they've all got unimaginable, magnificent, wonderful, stupid, amazing worlds. Not just one world. Hundreds of them. Thousands maybe."

Of course, teenagers are the best people to examine these ideas, as they emerge from childhood to discover the absurdities, unfairness and beauty of life. When a world or space is new to us, it is easy to identify the anomalies. It's when we get too comfortable that they disappear from our view, and we stop questioning their existence.

Sunday, April 3, 2011

Un point



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myself
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